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Falling in love is easy but staying in love is hard. This requires continuous work. You have to keep working together to protect and maintain your relationship charter. What you enjoyed doing, during the beginning of your relationship, should go on throughout your relationship. You both need to work together to make your relationship better. You can’t just be idle and let your partner do all the work. You have to appreciate each other. Couples that compliment each other stay longer than couples that don’t. Such things as ‘you look beautiful’, ‘that’s a beautiful dress’, ‘I love your hairstyle’, ‘after all these years, I still love the way you walk’, such things should never before forgotten. Whatever you admired about that person when you first met, should continue. Whatever you liked about that person when you first met, should continue. Whatever made you fall in love with that person, should continue.

Normally relationships end because of ‘breach of contract’. You started the relationship based on certain ideas then after some time during the relationship you step away from these ideas. You begin to want something else or you fill unsatisfied. Normally this can be avoided if you took the time to really get to know that person before you started going out.

Most first encounters are based on assumptions and lies. Sometimes the assumptions and lies turn to truth but most times they don’t. So you either have to live with them or move on. Thus when you take your time to get to know someone, you really know them or at least you know them better than if you rushed.

People do sometimes grow out of their initial personalities. They grow to become somebody different from the one you met. They do this naturally and not deliberately. Mostly due to the fact that the really didn’t know what they wanted when they first met you and now they know. So they decide to take another path than yours and you part ways. You can’t do anything about this but you can try to avoid it by knowing someone’s aspirations and goals when you first meet. And if they are not sure what they want then don’t fall in love with them. You risk getting heartbroken if you fall in love with someone who doesn’t know what they want.

Sometimes, especially with girls, they cheat themselves. They meet a guy and even if they know that he isn’t good for them, they keep seeing him in the hope that he will change and they normally never change. If his bad today, he will be bad tomorrow.

Going out with someone who isn’t good for you doesn’t make things better. Some people do it because of the sex involved but then if there’s an attachment involved, someone risks getting hurt. Just because someone is good in bed doesn’t mean that you should get married or start a relationship. It takes more than just sex to maintain a relationship. It takes commitment, trust, love and many more that have already been talked about.

The main reason that makes people stay in love is that being in love is wonderful. The feeling is awesome and the sex amazing. Who wouldn’t want this? But then there also other factors mentioned already that make people stay out of love or fall out of love.

But once properly entered in, being in love can last forever and enjoyed forever. The elements of being in love keep the couple together but those who don’t abide by the elements quickly fall out of love.

There’s no chill and yet I shiver
There’s no flame and yet I burn
I’m not sure what I’m afraid of
And yet I’m trembling
There’s no storm yet I hear thunder.
And I’m breathless, why I wonder?
Weak one moment,
Then the next I’m fine.
I feel as if 1′m falling every time
I close my eyes
And flowing through my body
Is a river of surprise.
Feelings are awakening
I hardly’ recognize as mine!
What are all these new sensations?
What’s the secret they reveal?
I’m not sure I understand
But I like the way I feel.
Oh, why is it that every time
I close my eyes he’s there?
The water shining on his skin,
The sunlight in his hair?
And all the while I’m thinking things
That I can never share with him.
I’m a bundle of confusion
Yet it has a strange appeal.
Did it all begin with him,
And the way he makes me feel
I like the way he makes me feel…